“Love is like a lost object. If you search too hard, you won’t find it. But if you forget about it momentarily, it will show up in the most unexpected way”.
It’s true what they say about finding love. You shouldn’t search for love because desperately wanting a relationship can mean you settle for the first person you meet. Instead of putting too much pressure on yourself to find it, learning how to be happy with yourself first is the best way to be. Once love comes along, it should be like a happy coincidence that lightens up your life. Luckily for some people, they’ve already found that perfect person who they can share their lives with. If you are one of those lucky people, have a look at the ten signs you’ve found your long lost soulmate.
1. You thought you got on well at first, but now it’s like you share each other’s thoughts.
You may have felt connected and attracted to your partner when you were first going out, yet now it’s as if you share the same brain. You don’t need to communicate when your upset because they can pick up on it straight away. If you’re extra lucky, they’re already giving you a hug to cheer you up before you’ve even mentioned anything.
2. You’re building a life together.
If someone says “us” more than “me” when it comes to plans for the future, you know that you’re in their mind every step of the way. A true soulmate will always think about how major decisions will affect the relationship, and they’ll always communicate the possibility of change.
3. They support your dreams, and you support theirs.
If you’re miserable in a job, it’s a scary when you want to make a change. A partner will always stand behind you and will want you to be happy. You might have been telling yourself you can’t do something, but your soulmate will always say otherwise. While you’re getting used to a drastic change in your life, they will support you every step of the way.
4. You trust them completely.
Do you have no desire to check their phone for any hidden secrets? A great relationship throws all doubt out of the window. If you trust someone 100%, you couldn’t ever think of a reason they’d be disloyal to you. Trust makes both people comfortable with themselves to the point they can express themselves in any way they want, which is why it’s so important.
5. They make you feel better about yourself.
It’s great how people’s confidence can grow when they’re in an amazing relationship. We all have our insecurities such as being a little overweight or not liking the way we look. However, the way a partner makes us feel will decrease that insecurity, even if it’s just a little bit. When you find a soulmate, they’ll make you feel like the most fantastic person in the room.
6. You’re comfortable around them.
There are times we all like to glam up and look attractive, but we also love lazy days. A relationship with a soulmate will mean you enjoy Sundays watching TV just as much going dancing on a Friday night. Putting your comfortable pyjamas won’t be an issue once you’ve found the right person because neither of you will care about it anymore!
7. You also see them as a friend.
Relationships are fantastic when you genuinely enjoy time with them because of their personality, not just their looks. When someone is attractive, it’s great, but it can soon become boring if you don’t have an emotional connection. When you have found your soulmate, you’ll be able to have lots of fun together full of laughter.
8. You miss each other for the right reasons.
Missing someone because you’re lonely is entirely different to missing someone because of the person they are. If a soulmate needs to be apart from you for a reason such as work or travel, you will miss them as an individual. If you begin to miss their smile and sense of humour, you know that you value them as a partner instead of someone who just keeps you entertained.
9. They are on your speed dial list.
If anything happens, they are the first person you want to call about it. Whether it’s positive or negative, you always keep them in the loop about your life. Their opinion matters and they are someone you run to for advice. When you have a soulmate, support will always be there even if it’s on the other end of the line.
10. You deal with problems the correct way.
If you are arguing with a soulmate, you will both have a way of settling an argument instead of dragging it on for weeks. If you are with the wrong person, arguments will seem like never ending battles where you just can’t see eye to eye. Once you know a soulmate, you’ll know what makes them upset and how you can make it up to them. In the right relationship, arguments will be forgiven and forgotten.