When it comes to your relationships with others, are you a giver, a taker or matcher in life?
Givers are constantly looking for ways to be helpful. They have a truly selfless approach life and are constantly helping others. They thrive on changing people’s lives for the better.
Matchers are only too happy to help others but more often than not, they expect something in return. For example, perhaps they’ll help a friend with some coursework, but they’ll also expect their friend to do something kind in return.
Takers are the most selfish of the bunch, though they’re unaware of this flaw. Takers are willing to accept help from others but they rarely make it their priority to pay the good deed back. In extreme cases, takers knowingly focus on gaining as much as possible from other people.
You will certainly have heard of the phrase ‘nice guys finish last’ and you may be under the impression that givers get left behind because they’re too trusting, too caring and too willing to sacrifice their own needs to help others.
However, according to a study by Adam Grant, being a giver in life can help you achieve more success in the long run. It does this by causing a ripple effect that helps others to achieve greatness in the process. Instead of striving for your own prosperity, you’ll look to offer value to others too. As a result, those you help will cheer you on and support you on your journey to success.
If you’re a taker, however, others may feel jealous of your success and may try to tear you down.
Although it’s clear that being a giving person is key to health, wealth and happiness, it’s vital that you’re able to set boundaries. You need to identify when it’s time to draw the line and stop people taking advantage of your kindness. You don’t want to be a giver in a sea of takers. Too much selfless can result in burnout and missed opportunities.