This post by Family lives called “Coping with festive holidays when you are divorced or separated” addresses an uncomfortable problem many of us have at Christmas time.
Divorce is unfortunately very common in this day and age, which makes the holidays very difficult for millions of people out there who are currently nursing a broken heart.
Christmas can be one of the most amazing times when you’re happy but it can go the complete opposite way when you’re miserable.
Seeing couples holding hands could either make you appreciate your relationship or really miss a partner who you are no longer with. A break up can make being alone highlighted- all because of Christmas.
However, this article highlights ways you can stop yourself turning into Scrooge. Of course, it’s horrible if your divorce or separation is causing you a lot of upset when all you want to do is celebration this special time of year.
One of the first points this post makes is that it is advised that you should make long term plans. Chances are, if your friends are in relationships and you are not, they will probably have plans with their partners. This is the reason why you need to create plans in advance so that you can have a good amount of time around people who care about you, otherwise, you could go a week without seeing a friendly face, which isn’t good at all!
Arrange for a nice coffee meet up or a walk around the Christmas Markets. This will prove to you that you don’t need a partner to have fun doing festive activities and there are plenty of important people in your life.
Another great point is to take competition out of the equation when it comes to Christmas. If you have children, you and your ex might compete to see who can get the best gifts. This is a really bad idea. Christmas should be about giving but without expecting anything back.
Putting your children in the middle of your divorce is a really bad thing to do. Your children should be thankful for whatever you give them and materialism shouldn’t be seen as the be all and end all.
If you and your partner can, get together and talk about what gifts you children do want. If they is one that is priced higher than either of you can afford, club together and get the gift instead. This way, it will teach you that you can still be a team and make the divorce or separation less harmful to your children. It’s a great lesson to them to show that you can still be civil and kind to people, even if they are no longer in your life.
To read the rest of this brilliant article, visit here.
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