No matter how long you’ve been married, one year, ten years – twenty, it is important to keep the ‘magic’ alive and sustain a strong relationship. It can be easy to let things go, especially with the distractions of everyday life. Here’s ten top tips to keeping your marriage going strong:
Talk to each other
It might sound obvious, but talking to each other is important. At the end of a busy day, when you feel like just crashing out in front of the TV, take the time to discuss what you did in your day. What happened at work? What do you think you should do on the weekend? This is important so you can stay in touch with one another. It can be all too easy to get into a routine and forget to communicate.
Turn off the technology
Whether it’s phones, tablets or TVs, there’s no mistaking that technology plays a big part in our lives. Ever sat talking to your spouse whilst they surfed the web, checked out Facebook or answered a text? It can be really annoying, and even if they say they’re listening, chances are you don’t have their full attention. So, turn it off. Have a tech-free night and enjoy each other’s company. You won’t miss out on anything, and it will be worth it.
Get out of your rut
Get up, work, go home, sleep. Sound like a familiar routine? It can be super easy to get stuck in a rut, so dig yourself out of it. Try mixing things up – how about a date night, a cinema evening or what about taking a few days of annual leave just to spend time together?
Plan trips out together
Linked to the above, it is highly valuable to plan trips out. It doesn’t have to cost a lot of money, either. Try a farmers’ market on a Sunday, or as Christmas is approaching, what about late night Christmas shopping? Get away from the house and see something different together.
It’s great to plan trips, but what could be more exciting than finding out you’re off somewhere nice when you didn’t think you had anything planned? You don’t have to do this just on special occasions, any night can be a surprise!
Tell them you love them
You might forget to tell your spouse you love them, and those three little words mean a lot. Remind them daily how much they mean to you.
Don’t let it be all about the kids
Got kids? Chances are your world revolves around them. This is great, but don’t let it be your everything. Remember what it was like before they came along. Line up a babysitter and spend some time without them for a bit. And when you are alone as a couple, don’t keep talking about the children, either. You can get in the habit of moaning/worrying/complaining about them, and this is not constructive.
Say no to other things for the sake of your spouse
Friends go to the pub every Friday? How about saying no and spending time with your spouse instead. It can be tough to say no but it will help your relationship if you show your spouse that they mean more to you.
Get a surprise gift for your partner
Gifts are great! We love them! Whether large or small, expensive or handmade, a surprise gift can lighten up your spouse’s day!
Celebrate your big moments
Don’t forget to celebrate those big moments. Anniversaries, birthdays, promotions, house moves – they can go by so quickly without a mention. Remember to stop and remember the moment with your partner when you can.