Despite being an almost inevitable and unavoidable part of life, grief is an experience that’s incredibly difficult to deal with. The fact grief is a completely natural response to loss doesn’t make it any less draining, frustrating and lonely.
There’s no quick fix to overcome grief at the click of your fingers, but there are a few things you can do to ease the pain. For example, meditation has been found to help some people deal with their grief a little better and manage overwhelming feelings.
Next time you find yourself overwhelmed with grief for the person you lost, here are just a few things you can do:
- Find a comfortable place to sit where you’re unlikely to be disturbed for 15 to 20 minutes
- Use pillows and cushions to make yourself comfortable if necessary
- Begin to breathe slowly and deeply
- Pay attention to the way you feel, both emotionally and physically
- Don’t over-analyse how you feel. Instead, try to be in the moment, acknowledging your emotions in a tentative and understanding way
- With your eyes closed, picture the face of the person you’ve lost
- Have a think about the things you wish to say to them and visualise a conversation between the two of you
- Next, focus on a positive and happy memory you’ve shared with this person. Start from the very beginning of the memory and imagine reliving it in detail
- When you are finished, take a few deep breaths
If you’re new to meditation, this process might seem strange or silly at first. With practise you’ll soon get the hang of it and you’ll learn how you can use meditation to your advantage.