There are several reasons why encouraging a positive mental attitude is important. Firstly, there is the idea of a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you haven’t come across this term before it is simply this, if you have experienced something going wrong before, say a breakdown in a relationship which hurt you quite badly, then you will approach all future relationships convinced that it will end the same way; your negative attitude and the way you begin behaving is likely to increase the chances of it happening again.
The second reason why it is important to cultivate a positive mental attitude is based on your overall wellbeing. Those who constantly seek to see the negative in everything are generally unhappy people who feel like they are losing out or they didn’t get a good deal in life. Instead of appreciating the things they do have, they focus on the things they don’t and this just serves to make them feel worse.
If you are struggling with having a positive attitude in life, then following these basic steps can help:
Positive Attitude is a Choice
Thought it might not always feel like it, choosing to view something negatively or positively is actually a choice you can make. It’s not an innate behaviour, which means it can be learned or unlearned. If you veer towards the negative, you need to learn to recognise the signs and actively make the decision to accept what has happened to you and not to get stuck wallowing in your unfortunate circumstances.
Get Rid of Negativity
This is all about separating yourself from things in your environment which may be impacting you negatively, such as alcohol. It could also be about severing connection with friends who also view life negatively.
Find the Positive
Believe it or not, there is always something good to be found in every person and every situation. Sometimes it’s obvious and sometimes you have to really look hard, but it is there. Take the time to look at every situation and really consider at least one positive thing you can learn or take away from it.
Reinforce the Positive
One of the best ways to become a more positive person is to feel positive about yourself. Build yourself up daily by telling yourself how great you are. Remind yourself of the things you do well etc. Yes, it’s important to be realistic and honest but you shouldn’t focus solely on the things which you want to see changed in yourself. There should be a healthy mix of adjustment and positivity about what you already do.
Share the Positive
For you new found positivity to really take hold, you need to start sharing it with others. Pay compliments on a regular basis to people around you. Remind them that you love them or care for them or simply be nice to the strangers you come into contact on an everyday basis!