Most of us long for a fail proof recipe to achieve happiness in our lives. Sometimes we think we know the secret to staying happy, but then something happens and we are back searching for the next thing that will make us smile.
The truth is that happiness is an emotional state that can come and go over and over. But don’t be alarmed when it isn’t around as you can take the following steps to bring it back:
Try to pay attention to what really makes you happy, and make sure you pursue these activities regularly. Conversely, understand the things you don’t enjoy so you can keep away from them as much as possible.
If pride is an obstruction to happiness, then forgiveness is the path to it. Forgive someone in your life who has done you wrong and you will lighten your load.
Keep a journal and let it be an outlet to pour out all your feelings.
Express your dislikes subtly and less harshly. Being judgmental puts emphasis on negative emotions, which will in turn tarnish your ability to appreciate the good things in life.
Practice yoga or meditation to quieten your mind. Relaxation techniques such as a walk in nature or a scented bath can also bring emotional peace.
Don’t wait until tomorrow to live your life and your dreams. Live your life’s purpose here and now.
Most of us spend a copious amount of time worrying about other people in terms of what they think of us, or what their motives are. As difficult as it might be, you need to divert your thoughts elsewhere as you will never be able to understand someone’s true motivations, and you will certainly never be able to control what they think.
Let go of the notion that you need to be right all of the time. Try to stay silent even when you know something being said isn’t true.
One of the key ingredients to achieving a state of happiness is acceptance. Particularly, you need to accept that life is not meant to be completely free from stress, conflict and uncertainty. If you can look at all upheavals as part of life’s journey, then you will be able to deal with them in a calmer manner.
Read a book on spirituality, or a biography of someone you admire for their courage and zest for life.
If there is someone with an attitude and behaviour that bothers you, try to understand where they are coming from and accept that they are just a little different to you.
Look out for opportunities to do a kind deed. The recipient of your good intention would really appreciate it, and their delight might just make your day.
Look for inspiration from those around you. Perhaps you can draw encouragement from a young child who explores fearlessly, or a relative whose perseverance had led them to achieve great success in life.