There’s no doubt about it, breakups can be really challenging. Whether a break up was one sided or amicable, it can sometimes feel like you’ll never be able to move on. And even when you do feel as though you’ve put the past behind you and have started afresh, you may be struck by a sudden feeling that you miss your ex.
If you’re wondering how to deal with your feelings, here are just a few techniques:
Own the sadness
It’s perfectly normal to feel sad weeks, months or even years after a breakup. You may find that people try to rush you into ‘getting over it’, but this can sometimes do more harm than good. Rather than pressuring yourself into moving on, take your time and let yourself feel your feelings. Eat the ice cream, watch the movies and let yourself heal at your own natural pace.
Keep your distance
When you miss your ex, you may feel tempted to get in touch with them. However, this can be counterproductive and can actually make you feel worse. You’ll also be drawing out the healing process over a longer period of time.
It’s unlikely that any good can come of talking to your ex. If you end up having a pleasant conversation, your fond memories and feelings towards them may come flooding back. If they respond negatively to you, you’ll only end up feeling hurt, let down and heartbroken.
It’s also worth thinking about how you’ll feel if your ex is with someone else. By getting in touch, not only might you may put them in a difficult situation, you might also find yourself feeling jealous and replaying memories and thoughts in your head.
Although it’s hard, the best thing you can do is keep your distance and avoid contact. Perhaps you could become friends one day, but you’ll need to have moved on in order for that to work.
Acknowledge the lessons your relationship taught you
Whether your relationship with your ex ended badly or you’re finding yourself mourning the loss of that special someone, try to see the relationship for what it was – a lesson. You’ll definitely have learned something about yourself from the experience and you’ll be able to take this knowledge forward into your next relationship!
Let the tarot guide you
If you miss your ex, you may find it hard to think about other things. You can find yourself so obsessed with the past that it clouds your judgement and prevents you from living in the present or dreaming about the future. A tarot reading could give you the clarity you need. Your reader can help you determine what lies ahead while also giving you the encouragement you need to move forward with your life and appreciate how great it can be – even if your ex isn’t by your side!